April challenge
Day 28 - What is your love language?
In August 2010 Jonathan came to visit me and my family in BC for a week or so. Then we flew to Maine together and spent two weeks there before I headed over to Africa. During that time I found a copy of "The Five Love Languages: Men's Edition" that Jonathan had sitting on his bookshelf and read it. I've heard about "The Five Love Languages" book quite a bit and done those sorts of quizzes for classes, but that was the first time I ever actually read the book and did the special book-edition of the love languages quiz. The top results were pretty much what I could have guessed. I have two pretty equal primary love languages: words of affirmation and quality time. If someone gives me a compliment, especially about something I really care about (ie. my writing or other skills I've worked hard to get good at), I can glow for days. And if someone makes the effort to spend time with me, I've also in heaven. But I already knew those were my love languages. Now for the other results. The lowest on the list was receiving gifts and next lowest was acts of service. Which leaves physical touch right in the middle. While my primary languages were no surprise, I was a bit surprised that physical touch was third instead of last. I've never really been a touchy-feely person. Sure, I like hugs from family members, but I don't go out of my way to touch most people and I am not too fond of most people, especially ones I don't know too well, getting too far inside my personal bubble. So I found that interesting. And, while I have two top languages, I certainly don't mind getting some of the other ones, even if they aren't the primary way I receive love.
Anyway, I'm a fan of the Five Love Languages books and I'd like to read the original one at some point and see if it's much different than the men's edition. OK, I've shared with you so now it's your turn. What's your love language or languages?
Mine are the same as yours, but Quality Time predominates by a couple of questions. :) I've noticed that most of my friends and I share the same love language(s) . . .
ReplyDeleteThat's pretty cool. The physical touch thing makes sense to me-- if touch is important, one will either touch a LOT or very seldom.
ReplyDeleteI think so, anyway.
You're right, Janelle, when I think about it like that, it does make a lot of sense. Thanks for your idea!
Deletei liked this blog post a lot.
ReplyDeletei think i have words of affirmation and quality time as my highest needs or wants.
do you think it is good to try to not want those so much?
you are a great writer and me being able to read your posts have meant a lot to me.
i wonder what Jonathan's love language is in what order?
do you know?
I don't really think trying to deny yourself your primary love languages would be a good thing, at least in most circumstances. That'd be like denying yourself of speaking your native language. I do think it's a great idea to improve on love languages that you're not as good at, because it can help relationships with those who speak very different love languages than you do. But I think you can improve those while still using your primary ones.
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